1Pe 2:15  "For this is the will of God, that by doing good you should put to silence the ignorance of foolish people."


Did you ever ask, what is God's will for me? The answer, please!! With all your trust in the goodness of God, do good to others, even in the midst of their foolishness. 
Now as a husband I know this, my wife's goodness to me, though undeserved; when I miss up and act foolishly, really humbles me. She knows how prideful and piggishly stupid I can be, yet when I see her respect and pure loving conduct it just melts all that pride away. I really am sorry and sincerely apologetic.  

1Pe 3:1, 2  "Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct." 

Here is the will of God, it is fill your heart up with the grace and love of God. Your preciousness will shine through from God to others. This is the way to beauty, strength, through quiet trust and gentle faith. This is what holiness looks like. It is like Sarah as a picture of faith and submission to God. You know that you can help your husband most by urging Him to lead toward God. 

Here is faith boldly placing trust in God, instead of fearing the frightening specter of losing your identity in your husband, submit in order to find your identity in Jesus Christ. He is Absolute Love. 

1Pe 3:3-6  "Do not let your adorning be external--the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear-- but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening." 

Husbands wise up and don't be so foolish and piggish, lead in the example of Christ. Your prayers will be empty if you can't understand your wife's needs. Lift her up as an honored partner in your life's move toward grace. She may be smaller and your physical strength could overpower her body. Yes you could force her into having your way. That is not really submitting and that doesn't reflect from you the meekness and humility of Christ. Marriage is a union of soul and purpose. Marriage is God ordained and initiated.  If you are married you will only find grace as you walk together. Hand in hand, at the same pace, striding toward your inheritance of eternal life, in reflection of the Love of God. 

1Pe 3:7  "Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered." 

So together come to a unity of thought and action. Your joy of life will be found in knowing what each other is struggling with and being sympathetic; (feeling the same things along with the other person). Having a friendship with one another and with humility softening your heart towards one another will bring peace to the relationship. 

1Pe 3:8  "Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind."